Real Intentions for Life
Every Heart Has a Purpose – A Wish To Die For
- Establish an individual and identifiable meaning and goal for dignity.
- Preregister by completing an ACD during the prime of life.
- Visualize priorities and values being balanced with work and rest.
- Experience life’s trials and tribulations as the evolution of virtue.
- Create a definitive finish line and realize lifetime achievement.
“It’s well worth taking this journey with the author to help us clarify our own beliefs.”
Excerpt from the Foreword byCarol Bradley
Wishes To Die For draws real intentions for life from the hearts of readers and bridges personal desires for self-fulfillment with advance care planning.
In the confusion and chaos of emergency rooms, dignity is rarely afforded to patients, particularly at the end of life. Nonetheless, this go-to plan is the only recourse for many patients who are intent on averting death and dying. As an Emergency Medicine physician, Kevin Haselhorst routinely confronts heart-breaking dilemmas and atrocities that patients endure. People deserve to die with dignity, but what does that mean?
Dying with dignity is telltale of an honorable life, yet many struggle with this concept as it relates to physician-assisted suicide. Dying with dignity is a personal perception, prospective choice and conscious undertaking.
In Wishes To Die For, Haselhorst applies his practice of yoga to the practice of medicine and explores a heart-centric alternative to the suffering and fear inherent to the process of dying. Dignity is realized through personal empowerment and self determination. It is derived from declaring and documenting heartfelt wishes that prioritize lasting fulfillment and lessen defense mechanisms.
Wishes To Die For examines dying with dignity from both medical and spiritual perspectives, creating a new paradigm for advance care directives. This book discusses how to balance the hope of staying alive with the right to die humanely and peacefully.
Real Intentions for Life are captured from reading Wishes To Die For:
- Make wishes in anticipation of suffering being replaced by lasting peace
- Acknowledge the worst moment of life with humility and gratitude
- Focus less on the fear of dying and more on the desire for a good death
- Shift defense mechanisms into offense strategies for personal empowerment
- Dare to be distinguished – free of obligation and deserving of respect
- Declare a finish line to prolonging life by creating a personal will to die
- Guide personal intentions through the storm front of conviction and compassion
- Complete an Advance Care Directive as a matter of the heart and good conscience
Dear Dr. Haselhorst,
I attended the workshop, Wishes to Die For, at the Desert Foothills Library in early January. I had tried numerous times over eight or possibly ten years to complete “The Advanced Directive List.” Of course, there are many lists. The one I had was several pages long and provided by the Mary Greeley Hospital in Ames, Iowa. Each time I tried to complete the form I became concerned about checking contradictory wishes. With feelings of failure I would put the list away–year after year!
At the workshop I was impressed with your candor and experience. I felt inspired. I purchased your book but the value was the one page letter. It was liberating. I was able to state my wishes in one page with six additional sentences on page two. I entitled the document “My End of Life Choices.” I have six sections in my document which are entitled by either statements or questions. They are:
- Acceptance of Death as an Inevitable Part of Life
- How did I thrive? What are the major “signatures” of my life? Are my goals changing?
- Who will make medical decisions when I am no longer able? What I do not want at the end of my life?
- What do I want at the end of my life?
Is it possible to share your letter with friends? The letter does not have any identifying information but I will give full credit to you and provide information about your websites. Again, I say thank you but feel the words are inadequate to express my gratitude.